Defining the "Grafenberg spot" or "G spot" is not a simple task. Most would simply say
it is an area of high sensitivity located within the paraurethral structures. The problem
with this definition is, the sensitivity of this area is not likely to be constant. If a
woman is not sexually aroused, she may not have a G spot. If the same woman is highly
aroused and her paraurethral glands are engorged with prostatic fluid, she may have a very
distinct G spot. There are perhaps women who are not aware of a G spot even though they
ejaculate and experience a more intense orgasm if their paraurethral glands are stimulated.
It is for these reasons that it is important for people not to form a concrete definition of
what a G spot is. Each woman will create her own definition, one valid only for her.
Do I have a G-spot?
The next question for debate concerns whether or not "all" women have a G spot or G crest.
This is not really a valid question. The G spot indicates the "sensitivity" of a non-specific
area of tissue. The "G-Crest" defines the swollen "condition" of the paraurethral glands
during sexual arousal. There are no anatomical structures with these names. This is in part
why people have trouble finding it. What one needs to look for are the paraurethral glands.
All women have these and it is likely that they all produce at least a small amount of fluid
that may seep out and mix with the other fluids that are present in much larger quantities.
NOTE: As in the case of men, these glands can become infected and cause pain and discomfort
during urination. Women who experience chronic urinary infections or pain should consult with
a doctor to see if they may have the female equivalent of "prostatitis."
There are some vibrators that are specifically designed to hit the g-spot two of them
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From the book A New View of a Woman's Body
Copyright 1981, The Federation of Feminist Women's Health Centers
Illustrated By: Suzann Gage, L Ac, RNC, NP
How Do You Locate the Paraurethral Glands?
How does one locate these paraurethral glands? Quite simply, you locate the urethra. The
urethral opening is located directly above the vaginal opening, below the clitoris. You can see
it with your bare eyes; though it can be hard to find in some cases. The urethra extends back
from the urethral opening, urethral meatus, into the body, along the front or upper wall of the
vagina for 1.5 to 2 inches [3.8 to 5 cm]. While you can see the urethral opening, you cannot
see the paraurethral glands themselves. Using a speculum, you might be able to see the swollen
paraurethral glands projecting into the vagina through the vaginal wall. Adventures people
may want to slip a finger or two into their own or their partner's vagina while they urinate
so they can feel the urine passing through the urethra. This will help you locate its exact
position. Once you have located the urethra, you have a bases for seeking out a possible
area along it that is highly sensitive to stimulation, a G spot.
The G-spot and your partner
A woman's partner can bring her to an orgasm that includes ejaculation. If a woman already
knows she is capable of ejaculating, she should let her partner know, not pray that it will
not happen again. She should discuss the increased wetness that occurs with her partner; at
least prepare them for it. Hopefully they will see your ejaculations as erotic. If they do
not, reeducating them about female fluids and ejaculation may persuade them to at least
accept the ejaculations as normal even if they do not like the associated wetness.
There is perhaps one big advantage to having a partner stimulate you to orgasm when you are
trying to ejaculate, they will not stop the stimulation unless you tell them too. If you
are masturbating and you start to feel uncomfortable, out of control, you will likely stop
immediately. This could prevent you from experiencing orgasm and ejaculation. With a partner
you can agree beforehand that they will not stop, even if you say, "stop." (Doing this
requires using a "safe word" that indicates, "Stop!" for real. This is a word you are not
likely to say accidentally during sex, without thinking about it.) If you find you pull away,
you can ask that they hold or follow you so you cannot move away from the stimulation. Of
course you should only do these things if you really trust your partner, they need to be
forceful without going to far.
How do you stimulate your partner's paraurethral glands? Your hands provide excellent tools
to use. The best way to stimulate the inside of their vagina, along the upper wall, is to
create a hook with your index finger. Imagine you want to signal to someone standing
across the room that you want them to come toward you. You turn your hand palm up and
signal with your index finger by making a hook, curling it up and straightening it
repeatedly. You can do the same thing with one or two fingers inside the vagina. Massaging
the upper wall of the vagina, from the opening back two inches. Start out with a very light
touch. Press your fingers up and toward the front, pointing toward the pubic bone, or clitoris.
Use the urethral opening as a guide. Use a generous amount of lubrication; even if she is
dripping wet.
Start out by getting her aroused with manual and/or oral clitoral stimulation. Continue
the clitoral stimulation as you massage her urethral glands. Ask your partner if there is
a specific spot or area that produces intense or enjoyable sensations when you massage it,
her G spot. As you sense her getting closer to orgasm, apply a firmer touch, if she enjoys
it. Maintain a constant and steady rhythm. Follow through, continue the massage up through
her orgasm. Then switch to a very light caressing touch as she comes down from her orgasm.
If she experiences multiple orgasms her orgasms and ejaculations may become more intense,
and the amount of ejaculation may increase, the more orgasms she has. If she orgasms with
your fingers inside her vagina, her vaginal muscles may squeeze them very tightly, do not
pull out; press in gently.
You can also stimulate your partner to ejaculation using a dildo. This requires more
verbal communication as you cannot feel exactly what the dildo is doing. She needs to
let you know what feels good, or bad. Some women may like for the tip of the vibrator
to be pointed at their urethra, others may prefer a full feeling. The stretching and
pressure created by large dildos or an entire hand may stimulate the urethra enough to
cause an ejaculation, even if that is not the intent.
There are some vibrators that are specifically designed to hit the g-spot two of
them are the Insatiable
G and the G-Spot
Tango. Order them from our sponsored website at: Lust2Lace.com
A woman may also ejaculate during intercourse, with a penis or a dildo in a harness.
What does seem to work
best are positions that result in the penis or dildo stimulating the upper wall of the vagina.
Like when a woman's partner kneels between her knees when she is on her hands and knees, or
when she is on top controlling the direction and force of the thrusting. Some women may
ejaculate during intercourse without even trying; others may find it a challenge. It is
more likely if she already ejaculates frequently during manual massage. Practice makes perfect.
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